Brent Boeckman
Restore and Connect with a scientifically-proven method.
Our coaching programs utilize the latest research on stress, trauma, polyvagal and attachment theory to use our physiology not as a hindrance but as an untapped asset. Rather than ignore our physiological and emotional responses, we develop skills that make them our allies.
The work of scientists and clinicians such as Stephen Porges, Ph.D., Peter Levine Ph.D., Sue Johnson, Ph.D., and Richard Schwartz, Ph.D., and leaders like Owen Marcus is the foundation of our approach.
There are many theories and prescriptions on who a man should be and how he should behave. Some are helpful. Instead of being prescriptive, we focus on connecting men with disconnected or underutilized resources. Stress, trauma, a lack of secure connection, and societal expectations cause us to create survival strategies that work until these coping mechanisms sabotage our health, happiness, and our relationships.
Attempting to control an unwanted behavior or feeling can have limited benefits. Addressing the psychophysical origins allows the need for survival behavior to dissolve away. When we down-regulate our sympathetic and dorsal vagal shutdown (stress) response, we can better experience the parasympathetic response of relaxation and connection.
Men quickly discover that when taught how the body behaves, with a bit of guided practice, previously unchangeable behaviors change. When physiological and emotional causes are addressed, change is more than sustainable. A natural homeostatic state is restored.
We won’t tell you who you should be- we help you find yourself. We assist you in using all your resources to rebuild yourself and your life the way you want. As you hone your skill in using your physiological response, you are training to be an elite emotional athlete.
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Not therapy, but therapeutic.
Our work together is not therapy, but is often therapeutic. We do not focus on what is wrong, broken, or diagnosed to repair. We focus on creating a safe space where clients can finally face and heal what they have been carrying around all their lives. Our programs are designed to give men the tools and experiences to heal themselves with the help and accountability of other men. Rather than analyzing an issue, we help men dig deeper into their own — often disconnected — resources.
Men experience acceptance for parts of themselves that have never been accepted. The men assisting in this process discover more about themselves as well. They experience how the honor of being themselves can be a gift to another man. All this is done while using the body’s physiology to strengthen the experience.
Because of our authentic bottom-up approach, a growing number of therapists are referring their clients to us to enhance the changes they receive in therapy. Often therapists join our events and community because, as men, they need the connection and support that authentic relationships bring.
We are not therapists, nor are we qualified or capable of assisting with issues such as psychotic or suicidal behaviors.
Recommended Reading
TOP PICKS
Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown. This book emphasizes the importance of vulnerability in personal and professional relationships and offers practical tips for building resilience and connection.
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk. This book explores the connection between trauma and the body, and offers strategies for healing and self-care.
Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic by Esther Perel examines the challenges of sustaining desire and intimacy in long-term relationships and offers insights into how couples can maintain their erotic spark.
Silicon Valley Porn Star: A Memoir of Redemption and Rediscovering the Self by Jason Portnoy. Jason's personal transformation from a life of porn, extramarital affairs, and excess of every endeavor one would want.
No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life by Robert Glover. This book challenges the idea that being a “nice guy” is the best way to succeed in life, and offers strategies for setting boundaries, building self-esteem, and achieving personal goals.
MORE GREAT READS
Grow Up: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence by Owen Marcus explores the challenges men face in developing emotional intelligence and provides practical guidance on how to cultivate emotional maturity and resilience.
The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture Gabor Maté, MD’s most recent book, does an excellent job relating research to how trauma and our culture limits us and what we can do about it.
Waking the Tiger by Peter A. Levine. Explore the impact of trauma on the nervous system and provides a framework for understanding the body’s response to stress. This book offers practical tools for releasing trauma and restoring balance to the body.
The Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges. A new perspective on the nervous system and provides a framework for understanding the body’s response to stress and trauma. It offers practical tools for healing trauma and building resilience.
It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn. An in-depth exploration of how trauma can be passed down through generations and how it can be healed.
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle. This classic book offers practical guidance on mindfulness and living in the present moment. It includes exercises and meditations to help readers develop greater awareness and reduce stress and anxiety.
The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell. Identify common patterns and themes that occur in stories from around the world, and highlights the importance of the hero’s journey as a metaphor for personal transformation.
Fire in the Belly: On Being a Man Sam Keen explores the complexities of masculinity and provides insights on how to cultivate a more authentic and integrated sense of self.
Men’s Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom by Connor Beaton. This book aims to help readers achieve a greater sense of freedom and fulfillment in their lives.